Improve self-esteem in the family

                          Improve self-esteem in the family

                                                         Availability

It is to spend time (which is the least we!) To serve our / as children / as and partner. With teenagers, for example, is not worth it to "this issue and discuss it calmly Saturday, honey."

It must be available, because there are problems that are fixed only at the time that the other is encouraged to raise it and asks to be heard. Demos time on the other.

Parent-child communication: that parents talk less and listen more

In many families when a parent says "son / daughter, we have to talk", he / child / to think "oh, bad, bad." Why? Because parents know when they say "we need to talk" mean "I'm going to make a speech for something of yours that did not like me."

This would change if parents were made for a purpose: to dedicate 75% listening and only 25% talking. Listen to the / as children / as (or spouse, anyone) is an active effort. You have to drop the newspaper, remove the TV volume, turn head who talks to you, look into the eyes express attention.

It is active listening, which is used to improve self-esteem of your family.

Consistency parents and auto exigencia in / the children / as

One is coherent when what you think, feel, say and do are one and the same thing. It makes no sense to tell the / as children / as from the sofa: "Hey, you, help mom to clear the table." We must set an example first. You, father, have to clear the table for 5 days, they see you. The fifth day you tell your son: "Come, now between the two." And two days later: "I'm proud of you, now you've learned and you can and you just remove the table." And he will be proud to clear the table.

So they learn to autoexigirse, which is much better than having them monitored 24 hours a day. This is a protective parent while enhancer, motivator and cheerleader.

We also asked them to consider but they see us study, read our trade magazines, catch up on our specialty? We have to say, "Look, we also study".

Show initiative, concerns and good humor, especially with the couple

These three factors are useful for family self-esteem. In Spain the humor is usually scarce. But the routine is an enemy in the relationships and the / as children / as.

The key point is to have creativity and initiative partner in life and that will rub the whole family. The best times to be shared with the partner. Parenting should not forget that we are "you and me, babe, us."

Creativity and initiative protect the couple's routine.

Accept our limitations, and those of our

You have to know and accept your limitations, your spouse, those of your children / as, but it is important not to criticize the other to the family, not criticize your partner before the / as children / as, or a / a child / to face the brothers / sisters, comparing a / a brother / a "good / a" a / a "bad / a". That makes him suffer and removes self-esteem. It is better to take it apart and talk.

Recognize and reaffirm what it's someone else

We know (large and small) that we are good / as in some things and not others. "Son / a, you look good / a in A and B, but I think C is not your thing." We reaffirm the other for what it is, and see himself as what he is, a valuable person.

Encourage personal autonomy

We do good / as as we are doing good things. What you do is important: doing good things makes us good / as us / as. This idea helps to have personal autonomy, doing things for us / as same / as to improve.

Design a personal project

You will not go far unless you know where you're going. Stand still / a is not feasible, you have to have a personal project to grow and care for and help discern and promote projects of yours.

Having a high level of aspirations, but realistic

We have to play between the possible and the desirable. If we aim high, we will evaluate well, we will have self-esteem. But is it feasible? We combine a high level of aspirations with the reality of our capabilities and resources.

Choose good friends

Individualism is cancer of the XXI century. We are tied / as rewarding machines: DVD, TV, games console, internet ... The solo work undermines true friendship. The / as friends / as much compromise and individualistic does not like compromises!

However, we need more than ever friends / human / as, people, big and good / as friends / as, with / as to share many hours, sincere and close conversations, true friends who support you and know you truly who accept you with your flaws and enhance the best in you. Select friends / as well for you and yours is the best investment.

A family tries to follow these principles helps improve the esteem in their children and self-esteem in themselves.

There are finally three ideas to consider:

According to Chesterton, the natural tendency of the supernatural while not so be naturalize what is denatured. 

Much of pointless suffering in the world occurs because sometimes when we should dedicate ourselves to think, we start to feel; and sometimes they are to feel, we think. Avoid this unnecessary suffering: there are times to think and to feel now.
If you fight, you may lose, but if you do not fight you lost.