Components of self-esteem

Components of Self-Esteem

The components that give a view to the self-esteem of our children are the Senses: Security, self-concept, ownership, motivation and competence.

Security

It is a fundamental prerequisite of self-esteem, motivation factor. It derives from the recognition, success, freedom, appreciation, belonging, self-concept, acceptance.

An environment of love, acceptance and understanding from early childhood allows the child to dare to follow their natural impulses of development, and gives a security based on their own experiences and in strengthening their parents.

When a child feels accepted, understood and loved far enough and unconditional way, you will be embarrassed in any expression of their development, both physical and mental. His sense of self-confidence will be profoundly affected.

The child needs a clear standards of conduct so that you know what is expected of him as part of the family and social system to which it belongs. Basic house rules that all members of the family and the fulfillment of which are applied are all responsible, parents and children.

A contradiction of messages takes away the child safety and ability to access natural behavior. Parents have to agree on family rules and inform children of the rules and what is expected of them.

The child needs to have confidence in their parents and not subject to shocks or sudden changes in mood or attitudes within the family. The child needs the security of knowing where they stand in relation to what can or can not do, in order to develop their sense of responsibility.

Features / the child / a without sufficient security

Excessive shyness.
Difficulty separating from people or situations it thinks that and clothing.
Externalized nervousness, nail biting, thumb sucking, playing with the curls of hair, trembling, crying.
Stress such as bedwetting, stomachaches or headaches, excessive sweating, irritation, nervousness.
Resentment against authority for abuses suffered, used victimhood to feel relieved: he / she is not the / responsible, it is the environment or others.
Disorientation, knows what is expected of him / her, confused / a.
He considers that there is no justice to him / her and to whatever he does.
It is reluctant to try new experiences, it has been punished for any initiative to take and choose to do nothing to avoid being punished.
Difficulty in accepting changes, crisis, scared.
Difficulty maintaining eye contact or physical contact with others, remember the fear that represented them to look to their parents or have not received the experience of receiving hugs or affection.
Does not accept the concept of delayed gratification, he loses confidence in its ability to achievement.